The more I read your thoughts on feminism, the more I’m convinced you just don’t understand what it is. Your views are deluded, by what I can only guess is thanks to radical feminists who give other feminists a bad name. The first tweet that stuck out to me was this:
According to Hooks, feminism is a movement to end sexism, sexist exploitation, and oppression. In Feminist Politics he explains that sexist thinking and action is the issue, whether it be brought out by male, female, or child (Because more than just males exhibit sexist thinking/actions!). Feminists don’t blame men for failing, they blame sexism. And thanking men for your own personal success…just isn’t going to happen. If you had to overcome sexism, exploitation, and oppression to succeed the only person you should be thanking is you, Nici. Feminism isn’t anti-man, it’s pro-equality.
I have to agree with you partially, Lex. You SHOULD be chosen for your skills, not your gender. But that is also exactly why you need feminism. As I explained in the above paragraph, real feminism wants to end sexism. Sexism is choosing someone based on their gender, not their skills.
In order to understand where this confusion is coming from, it’s important to know different feminist views. In Feminist Thought, a few feminist views are outlined. Radical feminism believes that the system is so corrupt (focusing on power, dominance, hierarchy, and competition) is needs to be totally abolished and transformed. Their focus is on sex, gender, and reproduction. Many of them are anti-man and seek to remove them from social and economic power. When most people think of feminism, they think of this group. It’s a tiny fraction of feminists, yet due to the lack of education on feminism many think all feminists hold the same beliefs.
Another feminist view is postmodern feminism. In postermodern feminism, women use their position to criticize norms, values, and practices of a culture dominated by men. So, even though women are seen as lesser beings than men, they can advocate for change and make a difference.
There are many other feminists’ views I wish I could talk about, but I hope outlining the differences in these two help you begin to understand that feminism is much more than hating men.
Hooks, Bell. (2000). Feminism is for Everybody. Cambridge: South End Press.
Tong, Rosemarie. (2014). Feminist Thought. Boulder, CO: Westview Press.