From this unit, it has become apparent to me that in order to effectively integrate feminist thinking and change, it is necessary to know how to discuss feminism among people who may not know what it is or who may be confused as to the goals of the feminist movement. In the video How to Talk to Friends About Feminism, Cristen Conger discusses some key points that we should consider when we wish to discuss feminism with people around us. The first major point was to understand what privileges we have as individuals and how these privileges may differ from others’. Characteristics that each of us personally has may predispose us to inherent advantages or disadvantages in our society. Examples of these include race, sexual orientation, religion, gender, and socioeconomic status. When relating this to discussion of feminism, it is important to understand that everyone comes with different privileges. Before imparting our opinions on others, we should be cognizant of how our opinions may be shaped by our own privileges. This way, we are having discussions based on an even playing field, in which each neither party’s opinions or points of view are more important than the other’s. Also, we should take the time to understand different points of view in order to more effectively spread the change feminism attempts to spread.
Another point Conger makes in the video is that if we want to influence the acceptance of feminism by others, we should “lead by example.” Therefore, we should teach feminism through our actions. I think it’s really important that if we want to make a difference, we have to show people how to act in a way that aligns with what we believe in our minds to be true or right.
Talking about feminism can be uncomfortable, especially if someone has difficulty understanding what feminism is or what it looks like when put into action. Being conscientious of the way we voice or display our beliefs can help make talking about feminism less intimidating and more effective.