In the Cosmopolitan article I Only Sleep With Younger Guys, women discuss their reasonings for, and experiences with, dating younger men. I found this article pertinent to our discussion about bodies because it alludes to women’s self-esteem about their appearance and also the objectification of their male partners.
In the article, three women are asked a series of questions about why they choose younger guys and what they like and dislike about these relationships. One of the questions was: “What do you love most about dating younger men?” and one of the women answered, “If I’m being honest, part of it is that they still find me attractive.” While I appreciate the honesty of the answer, I think this says a lot about dating in our current society and what is expected of women. We are constantly pressured to look good at all times, including throughout the aging process. This causes many women to constantly seek validation of some sort, and in this case, this woman finds that in dating younger men. This statement also reinforces the current popular belief that looks are the most important thing in a relationship, which is something that gender roles have perpetuated in our society. With women constantly being told how they should look, they begin to return the sentiment to their partners as well, creating a culture of men and women being told what their bodies should look like.
Another question in the article was, “Have you ever dated someone closer to your own age?” and another women answered, “I would consider dating someone my age if they were cool and in shape.” This is another example in the article of how bodies are placed at the top priority of people’s relationships. This is something that is reiterated in the media over and over again, and has clearly become accepted in people’s own lives.
Lastly, the women were asked, “What surprised you the most about dating/sleeping with a younger man?” and the third woman answered, “how completely into me they were and how young men still find me attractive.” The media has encouraged people to feel like once we hit a certain age, we are no longer attractive to our partners due to our appearance. Men and women have been given the unfair task of being ageless, and defying the laws of biology. This is largely due to the media’s representation of what is expected of people in our society. Pictures of photo-touched, flawless men and women are constantly shoved in our faces, whether on TV, in magazines, or some other outlet. We are constantly chasing beauty that we will most likely never fully be able to obtain.
This article seemed to be a great example of how the media gives unrealistic expectations to live up to regarding our bodies. Even though it was indirectly implicated, the main point that I got from this article is that someone’s appearance is important in forming relationships and that as we age, we have to find ways to reinforce to ourselves that we are still attractive. These are things that the media is largely responsible for introducing into our society and has created growing issues with self-image and self-esteem among the genders.