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I took much interest in the many topics that were covered this week.  With sexual violence being a huge topic of conversation in the media as of late, I decided to dive into what the potential causes may be.  Along with this discussion, I will also mention possible ways to give our kids the best sex education, without limiting their sexual freedom, and alienating their desires.

I will start by talking about purity.  This social construct has been around since the beginning of time, however, “we don’t have a working definition for virginity”(20).  Yet for some reason, there is this “purity” that surrounds the word.  If you are comparing two people, one of them is a “virgin”, the other one has a sexual past.  If the “virgin” doesn’t shower, and the “non-virgin” does, I would consider the non-virgin is more clean and pure.  I’m pretty positive the only thing this leads to is girls having unnecessary anal, and boys avoiding looking at girls to avoid temptation.  It was sad to hear that the funding for teaching abstinence has increased to $75 million over the past couple of years, and is taught across 18 states (Oliver).  Kids need to be taught that their urges are normal.  They are already confused enough going through that time in their lives, telling them that what they feel is wrong can kill self confidence.

As John Oliver said, teaching kids the wrong thing, can be worse than not teaching them at all.  Without proper education, most kids will most likely get their sex education from porn.  There hasn’t been a direct correlation studied yet, but porn objectifies women, and as we know, objectifying women leads to sexual violence.  Teaching our kids consent is just as important to sexual safety as wearing a condom.  One thing that really interest me in this unit was the feminist porn.  I was expecting an anti-porn argument, however it provided an entirely different view on porn itself.  I actually found myself agreeing with the feminist porn agenda, where the actors do what they want, instead of what a producer tells them to do (Tarplin).  I think this can, and should be the norm across the entire porn business.  Not only will it make better, and more natural porn, but it would focus on the idea of both people participating in the love making (Tarplin).  The fact of the matter is though, most people don’t watch feminist porn, so what these kids are being exposed to can be toxic to their love life without the education system, or parents intervening.

Bibliography:

T. (2015). Feminist porn: Shifting our sexual culture | Olivia Tarplin | TEDxJerseyCity. Retrieved June 19, 2016, from https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=x38-iHvUqLY
Valenti, J. (2009). The purity myth: How America’s obsession with virginity is hurting young women. Berkeley, CA: Seal Press.
L. (2015). Last Week Tonight with John Oliver: Sex Education (HBO). Retrieved June 19, 2016, from https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=L0jQz6jqQS0
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